Always Use the Cup Holder (How To Live A Fulfilling Life)

How to live a happier, more fulfilled life.

I turned 25 this week. That’s a lot of time to learn and evolve. I thought I’d share some things I’ve learned about life and how to find more happiness and fulfillment in each and every day. I’ve suffered and I’ve struggled, but that’s made me grow to who I am today and I’m grateful for it.

58 Items I Think Are Important

  1. Follow the pretense of accident.
  2. Find at least 30 minutes a day to jam out.
  3. Your body is not an object it is a process.
  4. Always keep the door open.
  5. Every action has a reaction.
  6. “I’m fine” is a cry for help
  7. Stretch in the morning.
  8. Always use the cup holder.
  9. Walk as much as you can.
  10. Trade expectation for appreciation and the quality of your life will improve instantly
  11. Send pictures, videos or music to your friend that you know will brighten their day.
  12. Cut out social media, it creates stress and makes you lesser-than
  13. Embrace loneliness
  14. The ego thinks relationships are built on trade. It says seek but do not find what you’re looking for.
  15. Certainty kills the cat, not curiosity. I think curiosity enlivens the hell out of the cat’s spirit.
  16. Faith is belief without knowledge. The power of happiness relies on belief. Anytime you have fear or worry it falls upon a lack of belief.
  17. Stop looking for angels and start looking for angles.
  18. Find a moment each morning to share 3 things you’re grateful for. You cannot be angry or fearful and grateful at the same time.
  19. Detox from your phone often, gray it out to use it less.
  20. Cut negative people from your life, it won’t be easy if they are friends or family, but it’s essential.
  21. Understand the impact something as small as a text message can have on your mood.
  22. Dogs are the most effective way I’ve found to get through tough/dark periods of your life.
  23. Go for a run/rent a bike whenever you’re visiting a new city. You’ll gain experiences otherwise impossible.
  24. Say hello and introduce yourself to people you see every day/week. You’ll make their day and they will help you when you need it. This means the postal worker, the janitor, etc.
  25. Every single person is struggling with something. Don’t take that for granted.
  26. Switch up your commute and don’t fall into routines when you can be creative.
  27. Limit sunglasses and headphone use, they shut off senses and limit you to the natural world.
  28. Smile, laugh and cry (or let your emotions move you) every single day.
  29. Read a book. Spend hours learning new subjects on Wikipedia. Get chills watching youtube. Just be productive with your time.
  30. Go see live music.
  31. Don’t sweat the small things. Look up to the stars to remember how insignificant we are. Find beauty and magic in everything.
  32. Take more baths.
  33. Change your hair and wear funky clothes. Own the situation and be confident.
  34. Give yourself time. Being in a hurry is stressful and sucks. Early always wins.
  35. Use manners, open doors for folks and do things without asking for attention or praise. You’ll enjoy your life more.
  36. Clean your room or house when you’re in a funk.
  37. Learn to cook or bake and then make other people happy/full by cooking or baking for them.
  38. Water: Drink more of it, but use less of it. Be kind to the earth.
  39. Get into Flow as many times as you can.
  40. Never waiver on your values. Standing up for yourself or others when it’s unpopular or even threatening is what is needed for progress.
  41. Say good morning/good evening to your coworkers each and every day. It shows respect and humility.
  42. Learn a joke and share it with folks throughout the day.
  43. Laugh at yourself. You’re not perfect. Embrace it. Fuck anyone who puts you down. Their actions or words come from fear, not strength.
  44. Every situation or action is determined by two factors: Love or fear.
  45. Ask for help.
  46. Everyone makes mistakes. It’s not your first mistake that’s the problem it’s our second mistake. Not learning from the first is a failure.
  47. Take risks. There is no perfect time and you’ll never have all the information. Go for it.
  48. There is never a good time to give or hear bad news.
  49. Bring magic, enthusiasm and confidence to everything you do
  50. When you’re going through a tough time, don’t take actions or inactions by friends or family personally. Most people absolutely suck at being there for you when you need it. Find appreciation and don’t hold things inside, you’ll regret it later in life.
  51. On the flip side, if you have a friend or family member going through a tough time, ask them, “How are you doing today?” Listen and be there for them.
  52. Hugs are important. Think about how many world leaders just need a hug.
  53. If you’re sick or in pain, odds are it stems from your diet.
  54. Write letters, they will go a long way.
  55. All living things follow the same rules: you’re either growing or you’re dying. Work, relationships, this applies to all aspects of your life.
  56. Embrace the struggle, it’s often the best part of the journey.
  57. Don’t expect anyone to do anything for you, you’ll end up disappointed and left behind. Take control of all situations.
  58. Life does not happen to you, it happens for you. There are no good or bad moments in your life, it’s all how you perceive it. While it may be hell going through it, looking back, the toughest parts of your life made you who you are today. Honor and accept that. Be stronger and better for it.

I hope you found something in this list you can use to make your life a little brighter and more impactful.

Embrace the funk, enjoy life, cheers.